Yesterday, I was hanging out shopping with a friend of mine who I will refer to as Celestial because her head and ideas are often out there in the clouds somewhere. Anyway, Celestial and I were shopping and she was going on and on about how terrible her daughters boyfriend is. I must admit, the boy is not the most responsible person in the world that is for sure but who really is the best they can be at 20? I mean really. The kid is only 20 so understand that he is young and the person he is now is not the person he will be in 5 or 10 years from now.
With that said, he and her daughter do have a son together that is currently in the hospital fighting for his life because he is a preemie and is only 1.5 lbs. The boyfriend is always at the hospital checking on his son, being there. The kid doesn't have a job right now and he lives with his mother but he is trying to find a job so what more do you want from him? He and his mother are always at the hospital like a dutiful father is supposed to do. What more does she want from him?
Celestial is constantly bashing him and making it increasing difficult for him to be there for his son. I'm not trying to say this kid is perfect and is the greatest thing walking. He has made terrible mistakes and hasn't treated Celestial's daughter with the respect she deserves but again, he is 20 and has a lot of growing up to do.
When I try to tell her this she doesn't want to hear it. She strongly feels he needs to walk away because she thinks it would be the best for the child and I totally think she is wrong. With so many men running as far away from their responsibilities as they can she should be happy that he is trying to be there as a stand up guy.
Celestial grew up without a father so she is jaded and is passing all that baggage onto her daughter and is trying to perpetuate the cycle by having her grandson grow up with out a father. She just can't see what she is doing and I am getting so frustrated with her.
UGH! We are not the same person today that we were when we were 20 so she needs to understand that this kid will grow and change over the years so cut him some slack.
