How Much Do You Trust Your Best Friend?

Hey guys, I have a question for you. How much do you trust your best friend? Do you trust your friend enough to be left alone with your mate?

If you don't trust them then why are they your best friend?

I have some that I trust and some I don't. There are a few of my friends that I trust implicitly and others I wouldn't trust to hold my purse when I went to the ladies room. That's fact.

Many years ago I used to have this best friend that I thought I could trust. Hindsight being what it is I should have seen all the clues that she was nothing but a scallywag low life tramp. She did the unthinkable. She slept with my man. Oh honey that is a serious no no. I cut her off and I stopped seeing him as well. Done! I hear nowadays she has 9 kids. Whatever.

Ex best friend, I leave you to your hoedome.

Your Place is Nasty!

OK, so have you ever gone to some one's home and as soon as you walked through the door you immediately regretted going to visit them? There is crap all over the place. Shoes here, clothes there, food over here. Just a complete mess. Then the person has to clear a spot for you to sit down. You look around but try to not show the disgust on your face.

A little while into the visit your friend asks you if you'd like something to eat. You can't shake your head no fast enough.

You feel your skin crawl because you can just imagine what nasty furry creatures are crawling around under the pile of crap on the floor next to the TV on your left.

10 mins into the visit you can't take it anymore and make excuses and bolt for the front door to make your escape.

Has this ever happened to you? Yeah, me either.

I'm Not Drinking That!

There are like currently 4 women pregnant at the same time here at my job. FOUR women! At the same time! In an office that only has 120 people. WTH!

Me thinks it's in the water.

I'm staying as far away from the water as I can.

Life

Hello all. I don't have much to say today actually. I just wanted to put up a post to let you guys know I haven't forgotten about you and that I am still making my rounds to your blogs.

Life here at Casa De Diva has been pretty standard as of late. I just go to work and come back home. Getting back to my normal work routine has been good for me these days. I did go to the movies and lunch and shopping with a good friend of mine this weekend and I really needed that so it was great fun.

I've also been dealing with tying the loose ends of my mom's affairs. It hasn't been easy but things are actually OK. I've had so much support from family and friends that it has been overwhelming. I am truly blessed.

I've never been one to just call folks and keep up with them unless you were in my intimate circle of friends. I probably talk to them almost every day. lol With so many family members reaching out I really need to do better about keeping in touch with them. I acknowledge that keeping up with people has never been my strong suite but I asked God to help me get better with that. I really appreciate my family and I want them to know that so I really need to get on the good foot.

On other fronts, I've been wrapping my head around my eventual move to Atlanta. I know I've mentioned this before but now I can really start to make that happen. It won't be for several months because I still have to tie up mom's affairs and all but I am hoping that I can be down there by the end of the year unless God has other plans that is.

I hope all is well with you guys, How was your weekend? I want details!

What Kind of Person Are You?

I was reading a post on Lailani Ali's blog the other day and it got me to thinking so I decided to write my own post about it.

She was talking about driving by Venice Beach one day and witnessing a guy writhing around in a planter on the street. Many people walked or drove passed this guy and no one seemed to offer assitance. Many people probably dismissed him as being drunk or high and went on about their business.

Lailani wondered whether or not to help.

I think that is a moral dilemma we all either have had to deal with at one time or most likely will in the future.

Are we as a people so jaded by society's ills that we can not stop to help someone that may be in need? Are we too concerned with our one safety that we can not make the time to make sure a fellow man is OK? That helping hand could mean the difference between life and death.

I had to sit back and think to myself whether or not I would in fact help if I was presented with such a situation. Would I stop and help someone in need?

I would like to think I am that person. I would like to think I would lend a much needed helping hand. The truth of the matter is that I am a squeamish scardy cat who runs at the first sight of trouble. Here are a couple of examples.

My father was in the hospital once and a bunch of us were sitting in his room. He had just come out of surgery so he looked a hot mess. He started coughing violently and I instinctively jumped up to run but my aunt quick as a flash grabbed me and pulled me back down.

I was away for the weekend with an old boyfriend one time and we were at breakfast. A few minutes into the meal a gentleman across from us began to slouch over in his seat. His wife/companion began screaming for someone to help. I, again, instinctively jumped up and bolted for the front door out of fear.

I know I am not good in situations like that and I own that which makes this whole subject matter pretty deep for me.

Would I have the wherewithal to help a stranger in need? What would you do in a situation where a stranger needed your help?

Dating Agreements

I was drifting around the blogosphere reading some of your blogs and I came across a post on Naked With Socks On where he talked about couples creating dating contracts and I thought this was a fascinating subject and decided to write about it on my own blog. Yeah I'm a blog topic thief what can I say.

After reading NWSO's post and subsequently reading the February 23rd NY Post article I was quite intrigued.

Apparently "The number of unmarried couples living together shot up 88 percent from 1990 to 2007, according to the US Census Bureau." according to the article. I had no idea that many couples lived together without the benefit of marriage. The more I thought about it though the more it made sense to me. 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce and many people get married for the wrong reasons to begin with so there is no wonder why people are afraid to take that marriage plunge.

With so many couples living together without being married it does leave them pretty vulnerable legally. Many a couple have squabbled over who gets the bedroom set, who gets the couch, who ends up with Fido, who pays what bill and so forth. It can get pretty nasty. Many states don't have provisions in place to protect couples that are not married. Hence the advent of the pre-prenup or the cohabitation agreement or as some call it a "cohab".

The more I thought about it the more it makes sense. If I were living with someone and we both put our all into building a home together you bet I would want to make sure my rights were protected.

These agreements can be formal and drawn up by an attorney or they can be as informal as a mutually agreed upon email.

I think this is a really great idea. If I ever decide to "shack up" with someone in the future (not that I am looking to do that) I will surely lay out in no uncertain terms who gets what and how things should get divided.

What do yo think? Would you ever draw up a "cohab"?

Facebook and Relationships

OK, so most people are on facebook these days. I'm kinda not really but I am if that makes sense. Anyway, with so many people on facebook now I was wondering how it impacts relationships.

Think about it. You are with someone and you take too long to change your status to "In A Relationship" and the other person gets pissed. They tick you off and you change your status to "It's Complicated" and you could have problems there too.

What if someone posts something a little questionable on your wall and your significant other gets upset, how do you handle that?

I know that if I were in a relationship, I would be stalking my mans' facebook page HOURLY.

Just thinking how complicated things could get makes me glad I am not in a relationship.

Have you ever experienced your S/O getting upset over something that was done on facebook? Are you guys beyond that and nothing upsets you? Inquiring minds want to know.

I'm Back, But Not As Usual

Hey my lovelies in the blogosphere, I know I have been gone for quite awhile but I'm back, sort of.

This has been a horrible week and a half.

My mother, who had been sick for so very long, died Thursday before last. We had her funeral a couple of days ago and I am still reeling from all this.

Burying my mom has been the hardest thing I have ever had to do. This hurt and overwhelming sadness is often times too much to bare but I will get through this.

So now you all now why I have been gone for so long. I'm back now. It may take me a little while to get back to my jovial self but please bear with me guys.

So tell me, what has been going on in your world?